Hello Darling Reader
I'm sitting down with my herbal infusion looking out over the lake as I write. It's overcast and gray out today and the lake is a shiny slate mirror.
Are you cozy?
Let's dive into a conversation around The Womb, The Masculine, Truth, and resistance.
Your relationship to the womb and to the masculine directly impacts your ability to deliver truth to your clients, loved ones, and community.
When you are connected to your womb, and when you have healed your relationship to The Masculine, you will find that you no longer struggle to be direct, to be firm, and to reveal necessary (and sometimes painful) truths to your clients. What greater way to love someone than to tell them the truth? Than to slather them with unconditional acceptance while holding firm in your belief in their wholeness?
When a woman shares with me that she wobbles or struggles to address patterns of anti-relational behavior in a client the first thing I ask is,
"Do you have a regular womb and yoni practice? What is your relationship to The Masculine?"
This is because a regular womb and yoni practice requires you to deepen your capacity for sensation. Your fear of displeasing a client, of disappointing them, or fear of feeling their resistance (to receiving your reflections/feedback) boils down to:
a lack of capacity for your own internal response to their reaction.
Womb and yoni work stretches your internal capacity for sensation in the body, so you no longer fear your own emotions and sensations.
You will also shy away from penetrating your clients with truth if you resist allowing yourself to be penetrated by The Masculine.
Developing a love for Truth, and becoming a stand for your own integrity, enables you to more clearly see when your clients are operating out of their "adaptive inner child" (or wounded child, or wounded maiden) instead of their wise, adult self.
It will also help you become a stand for your own wise, adult self...your womb led self.
Your clients need your oracle, and she cannot fully come forth if you are resisting Truth in your own life.
From this deep connection to her womb, relationship to Truth, and receptivity to The Masculine, a woman can deliver truth to a client in a way that sets her apart from other coaches and mentors.
Any coach can tell a client what they want to hear and focus on being a "nice coach." An embodied mentor helps create true, lasting transformation, and takes a stand for their clients wholeness, integrity, and truth.
The difference between a "nice coach" and a great mentor is the distance between throat and cervix.
Your client didn't hire you for you to cater to their "wounded maiden," or their "enlightened diva." Your client wants your oracle, even when it hurts their ego.
For greater clarity: When I refer to "The Masculine" here I mean to say, "God in the form of masculine energy." Or, "The Divine Masculine essence of God." This would apply to your relationship with God as The Divine Masculine, or men who are embodying the essence The Divine Masculine. It could also apply to a woman embodying this same energy.
The masculine essence of God is the which penetrates and pierces us through with Truth. When we are still carrying wound from men, or that we have assigned to God, we tend to resist Truth and resist The Masculine. (And this goes for both men and women. Men can resist allowing themselves to be confronted by Truth as much as women.)
If you aren't embodied, and connected to your womb as a woman, it is going to be very difficult for you to discern truth. FACTS.
I have seen this in my own life and in the lives of hundreds of other women.
When women are cut off from their womb, they are cut off from their ability to discern truth. We become the most volatile, the. most gullible, most vulnerable in this state.
I was once told by a beloved pastor of mine to "follow the peace" as a means of discerning Truth and following Spirit. BUT WHAT IF PEACE IS CONFUSED WITH JUST COMFORT? What if "peace" is just easy, or the path of least resistance?
What if "peace" is allowing yourself to be a doormat and abdicating your voice?
I was well-trained in keeping the peace from my family of origin. It meant doing whatever you could to keep the people in charge happy with you even if you disagreed with them, or if it caused you harm.
It's trendy to allow things to "flow towards you," to follow what feels like an exhale, to avoid resistance or clenching in the body.
But what if your body is clenching because you have practiced clenching? How do you know if it's TRUTH or ego?
"What's no longer serving me" sounds like a great slogan until it comes to your children, your bills, your responsibilities, and your mistakes, and messes. What if it's just another form of avoidance?
You're going to feel resistance in your body anytime you ask your body to move in a new or uncomfortable way. Not all resistance is bad. Not all resistance means, "no."
So how in the world can a woman discern the difference, especially when it matters?
As women it is VITAL that we learn to feel the difference between a habitual clench "no" in the body and a genuine womb-centered no. It is CRUCIAL that we learn the difference between a habitual pleasing "yes" and a genuine womb-centered yes.
Resistance in the body isn't always a "no" or a sign that something is wrong. Sometimes it's just a sign that you have practiced clenching around the person, or type of person, that type of decision, or in that type of scenario.
It is imperative that we learn to discern the difference between a habitual clench, or ancestrally inherited clench, and a genuine womb-centered TRUTH.
This is NOT self gaslighting. This is practicing and learning true discernment -- which isn't over-thinking, over-analyzing, or mentally processing.
A woman not grounded or anchored in her body and womb is like a sailboat with sails but no rudder, and no daggerboard.
She'll go far but she won't stay on course. She won't be able to follow and discern TRUTH.
I cannot begin to tell you how blinded I once was to TRUTH, how incapable I was of discerning truth within my body, when I was disembodied and disconnected from my womb. I allowed myself to be sexually violated and abused because of my inability to discern TRUTH.
I cannot begin to stress how VITAL it is for women to learn how to find TRUTH. Truth isn't always shiny. It isn't always "peaceful." Sometimes it is very disruptive. It isn't always comfortable. It isn't away easy. It isn't always pretty. It doesn't always feel "safe." And our ego can be very resistant to truth.
The greatest service I could ever do for you as a woman is to help you reconnect to your TRUTH. And this happens through embodiment, and within the womb.
You can read books, you can listen to podcasts, speakers, preachers, shamans, gurus, teachers, leaders, coaches, mentors, therapists, influencers PHDs, friends, family...
You can practice breathwork and cold plunges, and keto, and paleo, and vegan, and pr-metabolic, and yoga, and prayer, and deliverance, and baptism, and pilates, and plant medicine and EMDR, and EFT, and tantra, and hypnotherapy...=
...and miss TRUTH entirely.
Want to begin finding and discerning truth in your body? Want to strengthen and hone your intuitive skills? Practice connecting to your body every day. Specifically your voice, your heart, and your womb.
Spirit desires to speak through, move through, and radiate through a human body. If you aren't connected to yours, you limit your spiritual capacity to channel from Spirit.
A woman's power and intuition are grounded in her womb. If you're disconnected from your womb you cut yourself off at the ovaries.
In the recent Threshold masterclass, I shared some tools for how to uncover your truth in communication instead of reverting to some of the anti-relational strategies we picked up in childhood.
You can still register and get access to the replays for free until Monday. Then it's getting packaged up as a little stand-alone program that will become a required pre-requisite to working with me 1:1.
Often when we are unclear on our truth, things may feel overwhelming, confusing, and complex. This is your number one clue that you're not in your body, or disconnected from your womb. It's our ego and brain/mind that creates confusion and complexity. Which is a part of navigating life as a human. When we see this pattern, we know it's time to drop into the body. One of the quickest ways to do this, is to follow the "stop, drop, and roll" method I go over in the masterclass.
Let me know your thoughts and reflections on the masterclass after you've watched it through. I'll be continuing to drop content in through Monday before I package it up and mark the price up.
Enjoy your weekend, darling.
In service to the Divine Feminine & The Womb,
Amanda
